But here's a reminder.
I have heard that some1 made rude comments to some1 else. I haven't had a chance to get to the bottom of it but I would love some clarity.
Please email me at bigbutttheory(at)gmail(dot)com
We will get thru this.
Just remember that everyone
feels supported in their own way.
Ok, I will preface this by saying I don't really know what happened and I'm not taking sides...but I think that if two bloggers have issues it's best to just let them work it out (or not work it out) than having it further escalate to cause a rift in the blogging community. The hard truth is that simply NOT everyone is going to get along and there are going to be a difference in opinions.
ReplyDeleteFor instance, if I was slacking off and making a lot of excuses you bet your butt I want someone to call me out on it. But not everyone wants that. So, sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on.
I know that I was really harsh to a particular blogger once, and while one of her friends actually scolded me and called me out for being completely out of line, the blogger was GRATEFUL for me opening her eyes to her situation and blogged about it to thank me. You just never really know how someone's going to react. It's not a perfect world out there and we can't all be friends or try to make everyone be friends.
So while I totally get the good old "if you can't be nice, don't say anything at all" mantra....that's not why I am here blogging and that's not what I want. I want the hard truths. I want people to call me out. Be mean, push me, kick my butt. It's only going to give me more drive.
It was me, I'm the one who was 'mean', and I'd do it for anyone else here who seemed like they needed it too. I follow a lot of people and recently put up a post - if you don't want me to tell you what I really think then just leave a comment telling me to unfollow you and its done.
ReplyDeleteThere is no need for allusions, I'm not ashamed. I was under the impression when I joined that this was a forum to lend and recieve support but also to have a group of people who you could be honest with and who would hold you accountable for your actions. If I was wrong, please tell me, and I'll be gone in a heartbeat.
Best wishes to all in the event that this is my last post with SCC xx
- DS
I don't believe in being spiteful for the sake of it and slagging people off on your blog or theirs just to be mean. I believe in constructive critism. However, I think if I was blogging and genuinely couldn't see where I was going wrong and someone called me up on it, although I may be a little upset/miffed/offended at first I think that comment would stick with me and it would do me some good in the end.
ReplyDeleteI posted at the beginning of the year that I'd been given chocolate after a blood test to stop me passing out and I'd set my goal for the week as only one day of eating chocolate and I asked my followers had I had my chocolate for the week? 99% commented and said it didn't matter, I had no choice in taking it, it was given to me so I didn't faint. But Tim (of Fat Boy Thin) called me out and said he'd thought I'd had my chocolate for the week. At first I was like that's a bit mean (because I wanted to eat chocolate of my choosing) but I listened to his comment and didn't then eat a chocolate bar later in the week. I'm thankful he called me out because it made me still to my goal. So I think honnesty can be good at times. The internet is hard to read tone and I think that can be the problem and half the battle.
Just my thoughts xx
Oooh, I just saw this. It's no big deal. What's done is done, and over with. I once heard that opinions are like assholes, everyone has one! I'm not sure how I lured in that person^^ who feels the need to tell people that they're screw ups, but life is happier now without them, that's for sure. Oh, and go figure I am still doing good and have officially lost 18 pounds total. It seems strange to fathom that maybe I know my body better than they do as far as what I can do and what I need to do to lose weight and just because I'm not perfect 100% of the time does not mean that I won't be successful. :)
ReplyDeleteThe sad part to me is that this person is still poking their head around causing rifts, even following my pinterest pins and repinning some of them with ugly comments. But that's okay, life goes on. I said lots of mean things on my blog, but took them down about 30 minutes later, but for some reason I still have this person as a stalker. Maybe I should have just left my opinion up there for the world to see.